"Leave the past, face the future" says me...
"No, thats not right. You should Embrace the Past, Face the Future" says my BFF
That's certain truth to it too, I think.
Well, our past makes us who we are today. It moulds us on how we behaves, and how we look at things, how we treat people.
It also makes us re-act to situation differently.....
Be it good or bad experiences in the past, it always teaches us something.
We should always able to learn from our past, and make it as a guidance to us for future, to be a better person.
Don't regret your past. I did at one point. I wished I can "delete" certain memories in my past with a click of mouse.
Then I think again, why am I so childish? Or is it called childish?
Well, I guess it was just anger at the moment that caused us want to do all stupid things.
I am grateful that there weren't such tools to do that.... If not, I would had lost a very memorable part of my life.
I am not sure if I have a past to be proud of, but all I know (at least for now), I don't want to be stupid and try to "delete" my past anymore.
All I want now is, to be able to look back and laugh at it.
Laugh at all the stupid things, cry at all heart-warming memories, and thankful for all the achievements......
I shall Embrace my past, and Face my future.... with Pride.
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
How to have a healthy relationship....
Saw this while I google for something else... and find that its interesting...
I only extract some of the points.... for full write up, you guys can read it from this link... http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Healthy-Relationship
1 - Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness.
Accept yourself. Respect yourself. Love yourself first. Take good care of yourself. If you really want, you CAN always find something to do that makes you feel good about yourself right now. Love yourself, so pursue your true needs. Light up your true desires. Ask yourself why you didn't? Too often relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames their partner for making them that way. Your life is ONLY under your control. Keep reminding yourself you are GOOD ENOUGH to have a happy life and a healthy relationship. Make yourself happy, and then share with one another.
2 - Make and keep clear agreements.
Respect the difference between yourself and your partner. Don't expect he or she to agree with you on everything. Reach mutual agreement or plan, and then commit to it. Leave the partner if you can't reach any agreement or you find he or she always makes excuses for breaking the agreement or plan. If you say you're going to meet your partner for lunch at noon, be on time, or call if you're going to be late. If you agree to have a monogamous relationship, keep that agreement and/or tell the truth about any feelings you're having about someone else before you act on them. Keeping agreements shows respect for yourself and your partner, as well as creating a sense of trust and safety.
3 - Use communication to establish a common ground to understand different points of view and to create a mutual, collaborative agreement or plan.
You can either choose to be right, or you can have a successful relationship. You can't always have both. Most people argue to be "right" about something. They say. "If you loved me, you would..." and argue to hear the other say, "Okay, you're right." If you are generally more interested in being right, this approach will not create a healthy relationship. Having a healthy relationship means that you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, and you learn to love and share and learn from those experiences. If you can't reach any mutual agreement, that doesn't mean either of you is wrong or bad, it only means you don't suit each other.
4 - Approach your relationship as a learning experience.
Each one has important information for you to learn. For example, do you often feel 'bossed' around in your relationship, or do you feel powerless? When a relationship is not working, there is usually a familiar way that we feel while in it. We are attracted to the partner with whom we can learn the most, and sometimes the lesson is to let go of a relationship that no longer serves us. A truly healthy relationship will consist of both partners who are interested in learning and expanding a relationship so that it continues to improve.
5 - Tell the unarguable truth.
Be truthful to yourself and your partner if you want true love. Many people are taught to lie to protect someone's feelings, either their own or those of their partner. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship, even if your partner never finds out about it. The unarguable truth is about your true feelings; your partner can argue about anything that happens outside of you, but he or she cannot rationally deny your feelings. Here are some examples: "I felt scared when I saw you talking to him at the party," "I feel angry when you hang up on me," and "I felt sad when you walked out during our fight and didn't want to be around me."
6 - Do not do anything for your partner if it comes with an expectation of reciprocation.
The things you do for your partner must always be done because you chose to do them and you wanted to do them. Do not hold your “good deeds” over their head at a later time. Keeping score in a relationship will never work: a person is less likely to notice and value all the contributions of their partner as much as their own.
7 - Forgive one another.
Forgiveness is a decision of letting go the past and focusing on the present. It's about taking control of your current situation. Talk about the issue and try to reach a mutual agreement on how to handle the situation in the future and then commit to it. If you can't reach an agreement, it's a bad sign. If you learn from the past and do not repeat the same pattern, it's a good sign. It's the only way to prevent yourself from more disappointment, anger or resentment. Respect your partner, when your partner tells you to leave them alone, do give him or her the time and space.
8 - Review your expectations.
Try to be as clear as you can about any expectations - including acceptable and unacceptable behaviour and attitudes, especially attitudes towards money. Make sure you don't expect your partner to fulfil every need in your life. One person cannot be everything to you. Everybody needs love, intimacy, affection, and affirmation, but your partner cannot alone give you all of that. You need to get some from your friends, from your family, but first and foremost, love yourself. Attempting to change someone else’s mode of processing or personality style won’t work -- and will create derailments.
9 - Be Responsible.
Here's a new definition: Responsible means that you have the ability to respond. Respond to the real problem, to your true needs. It does not mean you are to blame. There is tremendous power in claiming your creation. If you've been snippy to your partner, own up to it, and get curious about why you are jealous and how you might do it differently next time. If you are unhappy in your relationship, get curious about why this situation seems similar to others from your past, and how you might create a better relationship for yourself rather than dwell in anger or resentment or try to change your partner instead.
10 - Appreciate yourself and your partner.
In the midst of an argument, it can be difficult to find something to appreciate. Start by generating appreciation in moments of non-stress, and that way when you need to be able to do it during a stressful conversation, it will be easier. One definition of appreciation is to be sensitively aware so you don't have to be sugar-coating anything; so tell your beloved that you love him or her, and that you don't want to argue but to talk and make it better.
11 - Admit your mistakes and say sorry.
Right after a misunderstanding or argument, tell your partner to give you some time to think of the wrong and right things that you and he/she did. Tell your partner to do the same thing and talk to them after 10-15 minutes. Tell your partner to give you time to talk and explain to them why you were angry, the wrong things you did, the things they did that you did not like and what you would like them to change. Ask your partner to do the same thing and give them a fair chance to talk and explain also. This will make your relationship stronger and help strengthen the communication between you and your partner.
12 - Spend some quality time together.
No matter how busy you two are, there is always an excitement when you do something together, when you share your precious time. Play a sport, eat at a restaurant, watch your favorite movies together. You will feel the magic of love and connection that you have with each other.
Although its only 12-pointers... but I think its very true.
Frankly, after reading this, I felt "clearer" about my earlier confusion about someone I cared. At least now I know, its worth, because together, we achieved all the 12-points..... Amazing, innit?
I only extract some of the points.... for full write up, you guys can read it from this link... http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Healthy-Relationship
1 - Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness.
Accept yourself. Respect yourself. Love yourself first. Take good care of yourself. If you really want, you CAN always find something to do that makes you feel good about yourself right now. Love yourself, so pursue your true needs. Light up your true desires. Ask yourself why you didn't? Too often relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames their partner for making them that way. Your life is ONLY under your control. Keep reminding yourself you are GOOD ENOUGH to have a happy life and a healthy relationship. Make yourself happy, and then share with one another.
2 - Make and keep clear agreements.
Respect the difference between yourself and your partner. Don't expect he or she to agree with you on everything. Reach mutual agreement or plan, and then commit to it. Leave the partner if you can't reach any agreement or you find he or she always makes excuses for breaking the agreement or plan. If you say you're going to meet your partner for lunch at noon, be on time, or call if you're going to be late. If you agree to have a monogamous relationship, keep that agreement and/or tell the truth about any feelings you're having about someone else before you act on them. Keeping agreements shows respect for yourself and your partner, as well as creating a sense of trust and safety.
3 - Use communication to establish a common ground to understand different points of view and to create a mutual, collaborative agreement or plan.
You can either choose to be right, or you can have a successful relationship. You can't always have both. Most people argue to be "right" about something. They say. "If you loved me, you would..." and argue to hear the other say, "Okay, you're right." If you are generally more interested in being right, this approach will not create a healthy relationship. Having a healthy relationship means that you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, and you learn to love and share and learn from those experiences. If you can't reach any mutual agreement, that doesn't mean either of you is wrong or bad, it only means you don't suit each other.
4 - Approach your relationship as a learning experience.
Each one has important information for you to learn. For example, do you often feel 'bossed' around in your relationship, or do you feel powerless? When a relationship is not working, there is usually a familiar way that we feel while in it. We are attracted to the partner with whom we can learn the most, and sometimes the lesson is to let go of a relationship that no longer serves us. A truly healthy relationship will consist of both partners who are interested in learning and expanding a relationship so that it continues to improve.
5 - Tell the unarguable truth.
Be truthful to yourself and your partner if you want true love. Many people are taught to lie to protect someone's feelings, either their own or those of their partner. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship, even if your partner never finds out about it. The unarguable truth is about your true feelings; your partner can argue about anything that happens outside of you, but he or she cannot rationally deny your feelings. Here are some examples: "I felt scared when I saw you talking to him at the party," "I feel angry when you hang up on me," and "I felt sad when you walked out during our fight and didn't want to be around me."
6 - Do not do anything for your partner if it comes with an expectation of reciprocation.
The things you do for your partner must always be done because you chose to do them and you wanted to do them. Do not hold your “good deeds” over their head at a later time. Keeping score in a relationship will never work: a person is less likely to notice and value all the contributions of their partner as much as their own.
7 - Forgive one another.
Forgiveness is a decision of letting go the past and focusing on the present. It's about taking control of your current situation. Talk about the issue and try to reach a mutual agreement on how to handle the situation in the future and then commit to it. If you can't reach an agreement, it's a bad sign. If you learn from the past and do not repeat the same pattern, it's a good sign. It's the only way to prevent yourself from more disappointment, anger or resentment. Respect your partner, when your partner tells you to leave them alone, do give him or her the time and space.
8 - Review your expectations.
Try to be as clear as you can about any expectations - including acceptable and unacceptable behaviour and attitudes, especially attitudes towards money. Make sure you don't expect your partner to fulfil every need in your life. One person cannot be everything to you. Everybody needs love, intimacy, affection, and affirmation, but your partner cannot alone give you all of that. You need to get some from your friends, from your family, but first and foremost, love yourself. Attempting to change someone else’s mode of processing or personality style won’t work -- and will create derailments.
9 - Be Responsible.
Here's a new definition: Responsible means that you have the ability to respond. Respond to the real problem, to your true needs. It does not mean you are to blame. There is tremendous power in claiming your creation. If you've been snippy to your partner, own up to it, and get curious about why you are jealous and how you might do it differently next time. If you are unhappy in your relationship, get curious about why this situation seems similar to others from your past, and how you might create a better relationship for yourself rather than dwell in anger or resentment or try to change your partner instead.
10 - Appreciate yourself and your partner.
In the midst of an argument, it can be difficult to find something to appreciate. Start by generating appreciation in moments of non-stress, and that way when you need to be able to do it during a stressful conversation, it will be easier. One definition of appreciation is to be sensitively aware so you don't have to be sugar-coating anything; so tell your beloved that you love him or her, and that you don't want to argue but to talk and make it better.
11 - Admit your mistakes and say sorry.
Right after a misunderstanding or argument, tell your partner to give you some time to think of the wrong and right things that you and he/she did. Tell your partner to do the same thing and talk to them after 10-15 minutes. Tell your partner to give you time to talk and explain to them why you were angry, the wrong things you did, the things they did that you did not like and what you would like them to change. Ask your partner to do the same thing and give them a fair chance to talk and explain also. This will make your relationship stronger and help strengthen the communication between you and your partner.
12 - Spend some quality time together.
No matter how busy you two are, there is always an excitement when you do something together, when you share your precious time. Play a sport, eat at a restaurant, watch your favorite movies together. You will feel the magic of love and connection that you have with each other.
Although its only 12-pointers... but I think its very true.
Frankly, after reading this, I felt "clearer" about my earlier confusion about someone I cared. At least now I know, its worth, because together, we achieved all the 12-points..... Amazing, innit?
Monday, November 24, 2008
Numb......
I'm tired of being what you want me to be,
Feeling so faithless lost under the surface
i Don't know what you are expecting of me
Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes
(Caught in the undertow just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you
(Caught in the undertow just caught in the undertow)
[Chorus]
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
Become so tired so much more aware,
I'm becoming this all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you
Can't you see that you're smothering me
Holding too tightly afraid to lose control
Cause everything that you thought I would be
Has fallen apart right in front of you ooooo
(Caught in the undertow just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you
(Caught in the undertow just caught in the undertow)
And every second I waste is more than I can take
[Chorus]
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
Become so tired so much more aware
I'm becoming this all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you
And I know
I may end up failing too
But I know
You were just like me with someone disappointed in you
[Chorus]
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
Become so tired so much more aware,
I'm becoming this all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you
[Chorus]
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
I'm tired of being what you want me to be
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
I'm tired of being what you want me to be
Feeling so faithless lost under the surface
i Don't know what you are expecting of me
Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes
(Caught in the undertow just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you
(Caught in the undertow just caught in the undertow)
[Chorus]
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
Become so tired so much more aware,
I'm becoming this all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you
Can't you see that you're smothering me
Holding too tightly afraid to lose control
Cause everything that you thought I would be
Has fallen apart right in front of you ooooo
(Caught in the undertow just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you
(Caught in the undertow just caught in the undertow)
And every second I waste is more than I can take
[Chorus]
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
Become so tired so much more aware
I'm becoming this all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you
And I know
I may end up failing too
But I know
You were just like me with someone disappointed in you
[Chorus]
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
Become so tired so much more aware,
I'm becoming this all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you
[Chorus]
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
I'm tired of being what you want me to be
I've become so numb I can't feel you there
I'm tired of being what you want me to be
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Husband & Wife
This conversation took place this evening at my cousin's place, while we are lazing around in the cool afternoon in Singapore..... (the conversation was in Hokkien... I tried my best to translate it to English without losing the humour....)
"Husband and Wife is about indebtment of each other to each other..." says my 4th aunt
"Huh.... really??" says me...
"Ya.... and its also about whom indebt who more too....." says my 4th aunt again
"Oh.... so that's probably means, nobody indebted me & Nicki..." says me.
"No no... you can't say that..... probably its just not the right time...." says Jace, my cousin whom is married with 2 kids...
"Oh ya... probably they are lost, and need more time to find their ways...." says me.
All broke into laughter......
Well... Nicki and me is the only cousins at this age whom is still single....
Come on.. we are not that OLD.... but its just look scary when almost all our cousins... even those younger than us..., are already married...... So, that left both of us looks "bad".... and with both of us not in serious relationship.., seemed to add into my mum & my aunt's worries.......
Just thought that its funny... and wanna share with you guys.......
"Husband and Wife is about indebtment of each other to each other..." says my 4th aunt
"Huh.... really??" says me...
"Ya.... and its also about whom indebt who more too....." says my 4th aunt again
"Oh.... so that's probably means, nobody indebted me & Nicki..." says me.
"No no... you can't say that..... probably its just not the right time...." says Jace, my cousin whom is married with 2 kids...
"Oh ya... probably they are lost, and need more time to find their ways...." says me.
All broke into laughter......
Well... Nicki and me is the only cousins at this age whom is still single....
Come on.. we are not that OLD.... but its just look scary when almost all our cousins... even those younger than us..., are already married...... So, that left both of us looks "bad".... and with both of us not in serious relationship.., seemed to add into my mum & my aunt's worries.......
Just thought that its funny... and wanna share with you guys.......
Things to do before I reaches 30....
2008 is coming to end soon..... Just less than SIX weeks away....
And yes, with the end of 2008... it shall marks me nearer to my BIG 30....
Scary? Well, guess that's fact of life that I can't run away....
Am I afraid with that BIG number...?
Hmmmm... not really, though I know I have not achieved some of the things that I thought I would had done by the time I reaches 30..... (I have less than a year to that NUMBER...)
What I thought I would had achieved when am 30......
1 - Happily married with kids... or kid at least.....
2 - Became Youngest Women Entrepreneur
3 - Financially Independent
Well, at least that's what I thought I would have achieved when am 30..... but now with less than 12-months to that.... its a bit impossible......
WHY? Well...
1 - How to be happily married with Kids when am not in any serious relationship at this moment? And, I don't think I am the type that will get married to someone whom I know for less than 12-months..... so, that makes it impossible to be married by then....
2 - Hmmm..... I came to realize that it takes a lot to became the Youngest Women Entrepreneur... and, 29 is not exactly "very" young too.... (though I like to think it is la...)
3 - Financially independent.... am half-way there I guess.., but with the economic uncertainity for next year.... things look a bit scary.....
Nevertheless, I "re-aligned" my GOALS.... and these are list of things I want to DO befoe I reaches 30....
1 - Climb Mount Kinabalu : almost there... already have 3 friends confirmed & determined to go.., now just need to check for the RIGHT TIME to go..... Target : by 1st or latest 2nd quater of 2009....
2 - Europe trip (at least to visit Amsterdam, London & Paris)
3 - Strengthen my business in terms of financial independency and reduces its dependency on me tremendously....
4 - To find my soulmate or companion......
And, I think the list shall goes on as days goes by.....
And yes, with the end of 2008... it shall marks me nearer to my BIG 30....
Scary? Well, guess that's fact of life that I can't run away....
Am I afraid with that BIG number...?
Hmmmm... not really, though I know I have not achieved some of the things that I thought I would had done by the time I reaches 30..... (I have less than a year to that NUMBER...)
What I thought I would had achieved when am 30......
1 - Happily married with kids... or kid at least.....
2 - Became Youngest Women Entrepreneur
3 - Financially Independent
Well, at least that's what I thought I would have achieved when am 30..... but now with less than 12-months to that.... its a bit impossible......
WHY? Well...
1 - How to be happily married with Kids when am not in any serious relationship at this moment? And, I don't think I am the type that will get married to someone whom I know for less than 12-months..... so, that makes it impossible to be married by then....
2 - Hmmm..... I came to realize that it takes a lot to became the Youngest Women Entrepreneur... and, 29 is not exactly "very" young too.... (though I like to think it is la...)
3 - Financially independent.... am half-way there I guess.., but with the economic uncertainity for next year.... things look a bit scary.....
Nevertheless, I "re-aligned" my GOALS.... and these are list of things I want to DO befoe I reaches 30....
1 - Climb Mount Kinabalu : almost there... already have 3 friends confirmed & determined to go.., now just need to check for the RIGHT TIME to go..... Target : by 1st or latest 2nd quater of 2009....
2 - Europe trip (at least to visit Amsterdam, London & Paris)
3 - Strengthen my business in terms of financial independency and reduces its dependency on me tremendously....
4 - To find my soulmate or companion......
And, I think the list shall goes on as days goes by.....
Monday, November 17, 2008
80/20 Rule - Lesson of Love
I gotten this email from a friend... and find that its very true.... so thought of sharing with all... (its a bit lengthy, but please read on... its very true...)
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not.'
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect.
Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%.
Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, hahahaha . . ..'
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt.
Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.
Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage.
I'm talking about life!
> About your jobs.
> About your friends.
> About your children.
> About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'
I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not.'
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect.
Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%.
Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, hahahaha . . ..'
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt.
Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.
Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage.
I'm talking about life!
> About your jobs.
> About your friends.
> About your children.
> About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'
I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!
If I were a Boy......
If I were A Boy by Beyonce
If I were a boy
even just for a day
I'd roll out of bed in the morning
and throw on what I wanted and go
Drink beer with the guys
and chase after girls
I'd kick it with who I wanted
and I'd never get confronted for it
cause they stick up for me
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
If I were a boy
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it's broken
so they'd think that I was sleeping alone
I’d put myself first
and make the rules as I go
Cause I know that she’ll be faithful,
waiting for me to come home, to come home.
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
It's a little too late for you to come back
Say it's just a mistake,
think i'd forgive you like that
If you thought I would wait for you
you thought wrong
But you're just a boy
You don't understand
and you don't understand, ohhhh
How it feels to love a girl
Someday you wish you were a better man
You don't listen to her
You don't care how it hurts
Until you lose the one you wanted
Cause you're taking her for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
but your just a boy
If I were a boy
even just for a day
I'd roll out of bed in the morning
and throw on what I wanted and go
Drink beer with the guys
and chase after girls
I'd kick it with who I wanted
and I'd never get confronted for it
cause they stick up for me
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
If I were a boy
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it's broken
so they'd think that I was sleeping alone
I’d put myself first
and make the rules as I go
Cause I know that she’ll be faithful,
waiting for me to come home, to come home.
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
It's a little too late for you to come back
Say it's just a mistake,
think i'd forgive you like that
If you thought I would wait for you
you thought wrong
But you're just a boy
You don't understand
and you don't understand, ohhhh
How it feels to love a girl
Someday you wish you were a better man
You don't listen to her
You don't care how it hurts
Until you lose the one you wanted
Cause you're taking her for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
but your just a boy
Saturday, November 15, 2008
A Moment with My Kakiis......
I got this email from Nuffnang titled "WHO's GOT THE BEST BUDDIES AROUND"....
The immediate thought that came to me was.... "I do!" and picturing myself with hands up... high up.......
As matter of fact, I actually have a few group of buddies... whom we enjoys doing different things together......
So... I checked out what's the contest about....... and all it asked for is only photos of my moments with my best Kakiis.......
Oh yeah..... am taking this opportunity to show off my group of buddies then ........
Of coz... The first and foremost, I must honor my best friend..... because he is my one of my buddies.... amongst few more....
JC, with his TWO main favorites.... His Truck & His Fishing Rod
(this shot was taken at least 18months ago.......)
TL,CY and KH.... My "Lepak" Buddies. Lepak = gossip, bitching, eating and just.. be there for each other....... Love you girls..... Always there for me when I just need to let the "steam" off the air..... We are just human, aren't we....?
(This shot was taken few months ago... during my birthday...)
KC & SL.... My Hiking, Pooling & Eating Buddies..... I always feel safe hanging around them... Knowing they will take care of me..... whether when I had too much of a drink.... or in the jungle... Yeah, I know... I am CLUMSY.... :( Can't blame me Okay... I have feet that's too small for my height... *ya, I wore size 5 shoes.....*
(And this shot was taken during one of our most adventurous 4WD trip to Lata Berembun... a trip I will never forget..... )
I hope I didn't violate the rules of the contest by putting up a few group of BUDDIES... instead of just BUDDIES......
Because I really want to WIN this CAMERA and also the more important is... the "Kakiis Nite Out".... Because I want to bring ALL my buddies there...........
KAKIIS.... Please...., let me win ya.... ;)
The immediate thought that came to me was.... "I do!" and picturing myself with hands up... high up.......
As matter of fact, I actually have a few group of buddies... whom we enjoys doing different things together......
So... I checked out what's the contest about....... and all it asked for is only photos of my moments with my best Kakiis.......
Oh yeah..... am taking this opportunity to show off my group of buddies then ........
Of coz... The first and foremost, I must honor my best friend..... because he is my one of my buddies.... amongst few more....
JC, with his TWO main favorites.... His Truck & His Fishing Rod(this shot was taken at least 18months ago.......)
TL,CY and KH.... My "Lepak" Buddies. Lepak = gossip, bitching, eating and just.. be there for each other....... Love you girls..... Always there for me when I just need to let the "steam" off the air..... We are just human, aren't we....?(This shot was taken few months ago... during my birthday...)
KC & SL.... My Hiking, Pooling & Eating Buddies..... I always feel safe hanging around them... Knowing they will take care of me..... whether when I had too much of a drink.... or in the jungle... Yeah, I know... I am CLUMSY.... :( Can't blame me Okay... I have feet that's too small for my height... *ya, I wore size 5 shoes.....*(And this shot was taken during one of our most adventurous 4WD trip to Lata Berembun... a trip I will never forget..... )
Because I really want to WIN this CAMERA and also the more important is... the "Kakiis Nite Out".... Because I want to bring ALL my buddies there...........KAKIIS.... Please...., let me win ya.... ;)
Monday, November 10, 2008
I had so much A.N.G.E.R....
Recently, I am not sure which EVIL MONSTER intruded me..., that caused me to have so much anger in me. I regretted certain things I said or did during this period... but after all, I think its for the better-me. I am sorry if I offended anybody during this time.....
There were so much anger that I needed to pamper myself and went for a hike to reduce all these..
Thanks to my girlfriends who kept me accompanied to keep me sane.....
Had a good Thai food @ Basil
Not sure if the tomyam helps... or helps to fire up even more.....
Then went for a super cheap Threading Service to clean up my bushy eyebrows.... @ RM5 only
Then follows by a cooling iced Kulim Black Coffee..... Oh gosh... I missed it so much.... its so authentic... reminds me of good ol'days that I spend with my grandma.., sneaking behind her and drink her black coffee......
Higlighted my hair... change to new hairstyle..... (will upload more on this soon...)
And pampering manicure & pedicure....
And a hike @ Gasing Hill with my buddies.... (of coz we started the day with a piece of roti canai at Raju's...)
Then... I end my weekend by indulging in putting a mask over my very tired face....
And suprisingly..... I felt very refreshed & energized today...... and proud to say that I have a very efficient day........
Love you guys for standing by me during my CRAZY mood.....
There were so much anger that I needed to pamper myself and went for a hike to reduce all these..
Thanks to my girlfriends who kept me accompanied to keep me sane.....
Had a good Thai food @ Basil
Not sure if the tomyam helps... or helps to fire up even more.....
Then follows by a cooling iced Kulim Black Coffee..... Oh gosh... I missed it so much.... its so authentic... reminds me of good ol'days that I spend with my grandma.., sneaking behind her and drink her black coffee......
Higlighted my hair... change to new hairstyle..... (will upload more on this soon...)
And pampering manicure & pedicure....
And a hike @ Gasing Hill with my buddies.... (of coz we started the day with a piece of roti canai at Raju's...)
Then... I end my weekend by indulging in putting a mask over my very tired face....
And suprisingly..... I felt very refreshed & energized today...... and proud to say that I have a very efficient day........
Love you guys for standing by me during my CRAZY mood.....
Friday, November 7, 2008
Moments of Truth.....
I am so tempted to write this entry......
But I shall hold back for now.....
I don't want to write because of anger.......
But I think I will write soon........
Get ready....... Be prepared.......
You know me too well that you should know how I am feeling now.......
I am not someone who get into this stage easily....... but you forced me to it now....
And, yes, if you ever doubt..... I am very angry with you now.....
I am PISSED & ANGRY..... and seriously PISSED & ANGRY.......
And yes, its a ULTIMATUM!
Its not a JOKE, or just a moment of TANTRUM!
You have a choice to ignore it....
But I am telling you that I am Serious.......
But I shall hold back for now.....
I don't want to write because of anger.......
But I think I will write soon........
Get ready....... Be prepared.......
You know me too well that you should know how I am feeling now.......
I am not someone who get into this stage easily....... but you forced me to it now....
And, yes, if you ever doubt..... I am very angry with you now.....
I am PISSED & ANGRY..... and seriously PISSED & ANGRY.......
And yes, its a ULTIMATUM!
Its not a JOKE, or just a moment of TANTRUM!
You have a choice to ignore it....
But I am telling you that I am Serious.......
I feel VIOLATED!
Few days ago, I came home to my WINDOW wide OPEN, and traces of attempted break-in..
I was really pissed and angry....
Because, my home is the place where I felt safest... and HOMELY....
So, I really feel VIOLATED, and I curse the THIEF to its GRAVE!
Lucky me that I chained this to my grill.... or else, they would had been successfully broke in..
Some might think that Lucky me that its just "attempted"....
But, mind you guys.... I do feel the fear...
But I think its more of ANGER now, rather than Fear...
I was really pissed and angry....
Because, my home is the place where I felt safest... and HOMELY....
So, I really feel VIOLATED, and I curse the THIEF to its GRAVE!
Lucky me that I chained this to my grill.... or else, they would had been successfully broke in..
Some might think that Lucky me that its just "attempted"....
But, mind you guys.... I do feel the fear...
But I think its more of ANGER now, rather than Fear...
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Hillarious Rumours.....
I am seriously not sure how all these came about.....
I am not sure where the winds blow it from.....
But all I know... out of the blue... it started with a message from a friend... and it follows with a few others....
D : AL, heard u r going out with someone. Who could be the kesian man?
cc : YN, KC & SL
I was like... what?? And its even cc-ed to my other friends in the same circle....
And, I replied....
AL : Woa... where you got the news? Who is that guy? Even myself don't know that I am seeing someone.....
D : Your denial by saying that you don't know and asking who told me makes it more confirm that u r going out with someone. ;)
AL : Huh?? Whatever lo.......
Then, I received phone call from KC.... asking me who is the lucky person.... and say how can I not tell him when I am one of his best friend......
Aarrgghhh...... and the sms-spree continues.... (apparently, KC called D to ask... and the rumours continues.....)
D : AL, Wow..., looks like its real, Mr Sid. Care to intro to us this weekend?
cc : YN, SL and KC
YN : Yes, wanna go thru tribunal council this weekend.
cc : KC, D & SL
And, it gets more interesting......
KC : Lapuran dari Bukit Jalil. Satu Honda Jazz di kelihatan di pandu oleh seorang perempuan dan di duduki oleh seorang lelaki di sebelah kiri. Adakah lelaki itu Mr Sid?
Sid is actually a place where I hang out with my friends......
D : Berita Terkini - Pasukan Tribunal telah ditubuh hari ini pada jam 9.45pm untuk menyiasat dan menyoal si tertuduh. Identiti pasukan tribunal tidak boleh didedahkan buat masa ini. Akan tetapi, ia dipercayai diketuai oleh seorang dari sektor perlancongan, naib president dari sektor jalanraya dan 2 lagi dari sektor minyak & gas. Perbicaraan akan bermula se-awal jumaat ini.
Damm..... I am damm impressed with my this group of friends......
And if you think women are busy-body..... or "caring" in another term....
ALL of them are MEN, except for one.......
Oh gosh..... I didn't know all my these friends are so IMAGINATIVE!
Help.... I am going on TRIAL........
I am not sure where the winds blow it from.....
But all I know... out of the blue... it started with a message from a friend... and it follows with a few others....
D : AL, heard u r going out with someone. Who could be the kesian man?
cc : YN, KC & SL
I was like... what?? And its even cc-ed to my other friends in the same circle....
And, I replied....
AL : Woa... where you got the news? Who is that guy? Even myself don't know that I am seeing someone.....
D : Your denial by saying that you don't know and asking who told me makes it more confirm that u r going out with someone. ;)
AL : Huh?? Whatever lo.......
Then, I received phone call from KC.... asking me who is the lucky person.... and say how can I not tell him when I am one of his best friend......
Aarrgghhh...... and the sms-spree continues.... (apparently, KC called D to ask... and the rumours continues.....)
D : AL, Wow..., looks like its real, Mr Sid. Care to intro to us this weekend?
cc : YN, SL and KC
YN : Yes, wanna go thru tribunal council this weekend.
cc : KC, D & SL
And, it gets more interesting......
KC : Lapuran dari Bukit Jalil. Satu Honda Jazz di kelihatan di pandu oleh seorang perempuan dan di duduki oleh seorang lelaki di sebelah kiri. Adakah lelaki itu Mr Sid?
Sid is actually a place where I hang out with my friends......
D : Berita Terkini - Pasukan Tribunal telah ditubuh hari ini pada jam 9.45pm untuk menyiasat dan menyoal si tertuduh. Identiti pasukan tribunal tidak boleh didedahkan buat masa ini. Akan tetapi, ia dipercayai diketuai oleh seorang dari sektor perlancongan, naib president dari sektor jalanraya dan 2 lagi dari sektor minyak & gas. Perbicaraan akan bermula se-awal jumaat ini.
Damm..... I am damm impressed with my this group of friends......
And if you think women are busy-body..... or "caring" in another term....
ALL of them are MEN, except for one.......
Oh gosh..... I didn't know all my these friends are so IMAGINATIVE!
Help.... I am going on TRIAL........
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