The People That Suffered The Most....

"The people that suffered the most, is the one whom don't know what they want" says Dr. Grey

I think a lot of people are not sure what they want. Me included.
I know what I don't want. And I think (yeah..."think") I know what I want.
I think, lots of people are just as lost as me too.....
Which are, we are not sure what we wants.

Why do we do things out of obligations?
And, why do we expects(or accepts) it when people do things for us, because of Obligations?
Where does the genuine or sincerity gone?

I have this close friend whom I know for long time....
He never do anything out of obligations.
But nowadays he did a lot of it.
Is it called Obligations or is it called Commitment?
I am not sure, and I don't know how to advice him.

Because of curious about whether my other friends are as lost as I am... I had this conversation with one of my guy friend.

AL : What's your specifications in partner?
JN : Well.... hmmmm.... Honesty & Trust.
AL : Duh (rolling eyes with POKER face)..... isn't that is EXPECTED in every relationship????
JN : Oh well..... hmmmm.... then.... Independent?
AL : Okay... well, most of us are financially independent nowadays....
JN : Emotionally & Financially Independent....
AL & CY : WTF???
AL : If we were Emotionally independent too.... then, why do we need YOU GUYS????
JN : Hmmmmm..... (confused look)

Sigh... and super big sigh.... was all my response were......
I am not sure if I am the one that's LOST..... or?????